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By Heather Rutherford • October 28, 2026
“Will our separation ruin my teenager’s life?”- the answer is more hopeful than many expect. We explain how to choose the right moment to tell your teen, why their developing brains react the way they do, and how giving teenagers a voice helps them come through separation and thrive
By Heather Rutherford • October 16, 2026
Co-parenting can feel exhausting when you can’t change the other parent. See how one mum found calm by focusing on what she can control.
By Heather Rutherford • September 30, 2026
How separation affects children from babies to young adults: what you might see at each age, and how to help them feel safe, seen, soothed and secure.
By Heather Rutherford • September 8, 2026
A dad was worried that the sibling fighting and squabbling had increased since his separation and divorce. He didnt like his reaction but what could he do about it? He learned to manage his own reaction and get curious about how his children might be feeling. He recognised that all the change and stress of ada.
By Heather Rutherford • July 18, 2026
Sibling bickering and fighting can push our buttons. All siblings argue, and in fact, it can be a healthy part of growing up. Here are eight practical steps to restore peace and reduce the chances of its continual occurrence - updated
By Heather Rutherford • May 19, 2026
Our kids don't need perfect parents; they need parents who reliably show up for them while looking for ways to build trust. These parents make deposits into their child's emotional bank account. When their relational account is full, they feel trusting, safe and secure.
By Heather Rutherford • May 13, 2026
In this blog, a dad tells his story about the impact that separating parent support can have on communication, co-parenting and keeping his children at the centre of choices and decisions.
By Heather Rutherford • May 13, 2026
Our children communicate how they're feeling through their words and actions. We need to slow down and tune in to build trust and be that safe harbour that all children need to thrive.
By Heather Rutherford • May 13, 2026
It's not the fact that parents choose to divorce that is the primary risk factor for children in separated families; it's ongoing, unresolved parental conflict that can have lifelong implications. Here, we explore why and the steps that parents can take to dial down the conflict.
By Heather Rutherford • February 13, 2026
5 tips to help children of separation and divorce feel that they belong and that 'This is my Place'
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