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Helping each unique family thrive
Parenting through divorce is always emotional and usually extremely challenging. Our biggest worry is how the inevitable change and transformation of our family will impact our children. We want to protect, support and help them as much as we can.
Despite the best of intentions, overwhelmed parents can find it hard to keep the needs of their children at the heart of the process. I know, I’ve been there. When parents choose to end their marriage it doesn't have to mean the end of a happy healthy family. With understanding, guidance and a determination to always put the needs of the children first, your new look family can thrive.
The impact of divorce on children's health and wellbeing has been shown to depend upon several very important things: the depth of connection that a child has with each parent and the level of parental conflict they experience. It's not the divorce that is so damaging to children, it's the conflict that they witness and experience before during and after separation that can have a lasting negative impact on their mental health and well being.
In all my work, we look at how divorce impacts children and what we can each do to mitigate the effects by keeping children at the centre and helping them feel safe, secure, and loved.
All children need to feel connected, secure and heard. Children of divorce need to feel that they are still at the centre of their family rather than in the middle or left behind. With care, self awareness, insight, and understanding you can emerge from your divorce with a deeper, more profound relationship with your children that sets them up for a happy and healthy future.
Want to do the best for your kids? You've come to the right place. Why not get in touch?
'I recently completed a 6 week 1 to 1 parenting course and I cannot recommend it highly enough. Heather's positive attitude and ability to make the course enjoyable, interactive and thought provoking has given me a much better understanding of my son, what drives his behaviour and how to respond in challenging situations.' David
6 week Parenting Through Divorce Course:
Helping Each Unique Family Thrive
This 6-week Parenting Through Divorce course is for you if:
- You’re worried about how your separation or divorce will impact your children.
- Feeling guilty, exhausted, and grieving, you find it hard to keep calm, confident, and present for your kids.
- You feel your children's behaviour has changed and they're finding the transitions that come with divorce hard to manage. You worry that your relationship with them is suffering.
- You're treading on eggshells worrying about what to tell or not tell your kids or how to answer their questions.
- You worry about how you can maintain firm, consistent limits and manage challenging behaviour in two different homes. You want to help your children build resilience through the changes and help your family thrive.
- You are trying but finding it hard to communicate effectively with your co-parent and you worry that this is impacting your children.
Over six sessions with Q & A, handouts and homework you will learn how:
- Divorce and separation impact your children and what you can do to mitigate the effects of divorce.
- Parental conflict can have a long term negative impact on your kids health and well being and how to communicate more effectively with your co parent.
- Temperament and developmental stages are important factors in how children respond to divorce.
- To help each of your children talk about their feelings and support them emotionally. How to build your child’s confidence and resilience to change.
- To improve your child's motivation and cooperation and how to address challenging behaviour.
- To feel closer and better connected to your child despite the upheaval and change.
- To feel more confident and empowered to help your family successfully navigate the emotional and practical challenges of separation and divorce.
- Divorce is about transition and change. It's not easy, in fact, it is often very very hard, but armed with understanding, empathy, a willingness to show vulnerability and courage, we can do our very best to help our new look families thrive.
We tailor this course to you and your needs. In a small group or one to one, your coaches will be Justine Lamont (Good to Great Parenting) and Heather Rutherford (The Parenting Partnership)
Popular Workshops
Parenting Through Separation and Divorce - 60 minute talk
In this workshop I share practical strategies to help parents sensitively navigate the difficult transitions of separation or divorce. We explore the tools parents need to keep their children at the centre, focus on their needs and help their unique families thrive.
The workshop explores children’s needs, why understanding children’s temperament is vital to helping children cope with change, the importance of finding and teaching coping strategies for the entire family and the vital role of respect.
We look at the importance of what we say, how we say it and how we listen. Parents will learn the vital tools they need to become an Emotion Coach for their children - helping children learn to understand and manage their feelings and their behaviour.
Finally, we explore the importance of connection with each parent and how deep consistent closeness supports children’s self-esteem, resilience, and happiness through the inevitable change that separation and divorce bring.
Get in touch to book this workshop for your organisation. (60 minutes with Q & A)
What participants say:
'Your talk was amazing, truly inspiring' Christopher - Head of Family Mediation
'Just a brilliant workshop' James - Family Mediator
'Your presentation on the FMA conference today was just bloody brilliant' Marianne - Family Mediator