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Helping your children thrive
Divorce is tough - especially on our kids: If you’ve found your way here, chances are you’re worried about how your separation or divorce is affecting your children. That worry is natural—it's a sign of how deeply you care. While divorce can be challenging, it doesn’t have to be devastating for your children. With the right support, they can emerge from this transition feeling loved, supported, and secure. Your family may look different now, but it can still be a warm, stable place where your children thrive.
Seeing Divorce Through Your Child’s Eyes: Every child experiences divorce differently, depending on their age, temperament, and the strength of their relationships. Getting curious about their experience and what they need to feel safe and supported is the first step in giving them the security they need. Divorce is tough and even with the best intentions, the emotional weight and practical demands of separation can make it hard to keep your children’s needs front and centre. I know—I've been there. That’s where coaching can make all the difference.
My Approach: The Four S's: In my work, I use Dan Siegel's Four S’s of Secure Attachment and his concept of parental presence as a guiding framework to help parents create the kind of environment children need to thrive, especially through divorce. Children need to feel safe, seen, soothed and secure and when we keep these needs at the centre of our parenting and co-parenting we foster strong, resilient relationships that provide the foundation for our children to build a successful happy life.
Why Conflict Matters: It's not the divorce per se that is harmful for children but ongoing parental conflict.
How parents choose to handle their divorce has a significant impact on their children. In my coaching we'll work through tools to help you manage conflict, communicate more effectively and build an harmonious co parenting relationship. Less conflict and a harmonious co parenting partnership helps protect our child’s mental and emotional health.
Let’s Help Your Family Thrive: My 1:1 support sessions, courses, and workshops are designed to give you practical tools, grounded in evidence and empathy, to:
- Help you to meet your children's needs before during and after your divorce
- Strengthen your connection with your children
- Address the challenges that come up as your family transitions to life after divorce
- Build a calm, effective, harmonious and child centred parenting partnership
With care, insight, and the right support, you can emerge from divorce with a stronger relationship with your children and an effective co-parenting dynamic that sets them up for a happy, healthy future.
Want to do the best for your kids? You’re in the right place. Why not get in touch?
'I recently completed a 6 week 1 to 1 parenting course and I cannot recommend it highly enough. Heather's positive attitude and ability to make the course enjoyable, interactive and thought provoking has given me a much better understanding of my son, what drives his behaviour and how to respond in challenging situations.' David
'I’ve noticed a very positive improvement in my communications with my children and in turn our relationship is better. The improvement in my own ability to understand and relate to my kids has been (perhaps subconsciously) reciprocated, creating a positive cycle of momentum, they’re approaching conversations with positivity and are in turn met with positivity." Jimmy
Parenting Through Separating and Divorce Course: Helping Each Unique Family Thrive
This 6-week Parenting Through Divorce course is for you if:
- You’re worried about how your separation or divorce will impact your children.
- Feeling guilty, overwhelmed and grieving, you can find it hard to keep calm, confident, and present for your kids.
- You're treading on eggshells worrying about what to tell or not tell your kids or how to answer their questions.
- You'd like to understand how divorce and family change affects children at different ages and stages and you'd like tools to help you meet their needs.
- You know it's important for your children's wellbeing today and in the future to have a good enough working relationship with your co-parent and find ways to communicate effectively. This sometimes feels hard and you'd like support.
- You worry about how you can give your kids two houses that feel like homes, maintain firm, consistent boundaries and help them feel supported and secure. You want to help your children build resilience through the changes and help your unique family thrive.
Over Six sessions with handouts and homework you'll learn:
- How divorce impacts your child and the steps you can take to mitigate the effects.
- Why parental conflict can have a long term negative impact on your kids' health and well being and tools to communicate more effectively with your co-parent: how to be an active listener, self regulation techniques, conflict resolution tools and how to set and respect boundaries.
- What children's needs are at various ages and stages, how to meet these needs and why temperament is an important factor in how children respond to the changes and transitions inherent in divorce.
- Strategies to help each of your children feel heard and ways to connect with and support them emotionally.
- To feel more confident and empowered to help your family successfully navigate the emotional and practical challenges of separation and divorce while feeling closer to your child despite the upheaval and change.
- How to provide your child with the stability and predictability they need through a well thought out parenting plan and effective family communication.
Divorce is about transition and change. It's not easy, in fact, it is often very hard, but armed with insight, empathy, a willingness to show vulnerability and courage, we can do our very best to help our new look families thrive.
We tailor this course to you and your needs. We work with one parent or both parents separately ( as long as there is no evidence or domestic abuse or neglect) but in parallel covering the same material. Why not book a free no obligation discovery call today?
Popular Workshops
Parenting Through Separation and Divorce - 60 minute talk
In this workshop for family law professionals I share practical strategies to help parents sensitively navigate the difficult transitions of separation or divorce. We explore the tools parents need to keep their children at the centre, focus on their needs and help their unique families thrive.
The workshop explores children’s needs, why understanding children’s developmental age and temperament is vital to helping children cope with change, the importance of finding and teaching coping strategies for the entire family and the vital role of respect.
We look at the importance of what we say, how we say it and how we listen. We can help parents learn the tools they need to become an Emotion Coach for their children - helping children learn to understand and manage their feelings and their behaviour while making sense of their parents divorce.
Finally, we explore the importance of connection with each parent and how deep consistent closeness supports children’s self-esteem, resilience, and happiness through the inevitable change that separation and divorce bring.
Get in touch to book this workshop for your organisation. (60 minutes with Q & A)
What participants say:
“I recently attended one of Heather’s workshops. As a mediator and family solicitor, I am always looking to develop my understanding as to how parents can support their children and better serve their needs. Heather provided invaluable insight into what children need from their parents together with parenting techniques to improve their connection to their children. The day after the course I put Heather’s training into practice in a mediation session and it was really impactful. I would recommend Heather as an expert in this field without a doubt. “ Laura - Head of Family Law
'Your talk was amazing, truly inspiring' Christopher - Head of Family Mediation
'Just a brilliant workshop' James - Family Mediator
'Your presentation on the FMA conference today was just bloody brilliant' Marianne - Family Mediator