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Divorce is tough - especially on your kids: If you’ve found your way here, chances are you’re worried about how your separation or divorce might affect your children. That's completely understandable and a sign of how deeply you care. While divorce is always challenging, it doesn’t have to be devastating for your kids. With the right support, they can emerge from this transition feeling loved, supported, and secure. Your family may look different now, but it can still be a warm, stable place where your children thrive.
Seeing Divorce Through Your Child’s Eyes: Divorce is always hard for children, and to complicate matters further, each child experiences divorce differently, depending on their age, temperament, and the strength of their relationships. Understanding what your children need to feel safe and supported is the first step in helping them adjust to the transition and change. Divorce is tough, and even with the best intentions, the emotional and practical demands of separation can make it hard to keep your children’s needs front and centre. I know—I've been there.
My Approach: The Four S's: In my work, I follow Dan Siegel and Tina Bryson's Four S’s of Secure Attachment and their concept of parental presence as a guiding framework to help parents create the environment that children need to feel safe, understood, emotionally supported and secure. When we succeed in keeping these needs at the centre of our parenting and co-parenting, we foster strong, resilient relationships and provide the foundation for our children to build a successful, happy life.
Why Conflict Matters: It's not divorce that's harmful to children, it's ongoing parental conflict.
Research shows that how parents choose to handle their divorce has a more significant impact on children's well-being than the divorce itself. With my support, you'll learn tools to manage conflict, communicate more effectively and build a harmonious, good-enough co-parenting relationship. Less conflict and a calm, harmonious co-parenting partnership help protect children's mental and emotional health.
Let’s Help Your Family Thrive: My 1:1 support sessions, courses, and workshops are designed to give you practical tools, grounded in evidence and empathy, to:
- Help you to meet your children's needs before, during, and after your divorce
- Look after yourself so that you can look after your children.
- Strengthen your connection with your children
- Address the challenges that come up as your family transitions to life after divorce
- Build a calm, effective, harmonious and child-centred parenting partnership
With care, insight, and the right support, you can emerge from divorce with a stronger relationship with your children and an effective co-parenting dynamic that sets them up for a happy, healthy future.
Want to do the best for your kids? You’re in the right place. Why not get in touch?
'I recently completed a 6-week 1 to 1 parenting course, and I cannot recommend it highly enough. Heather's positive attitude and ability to make the course enjoyable, interactive and thought-provoking have given me a much better understanding of my son, what drives his behaviour and how to respond in challenging situations.' David, dad of one
'I’ve noticed a very positive improvement in my communications with my children, and in turn, our relationship is better. The improvement in my ability to understand and relate to my kids has been (perhaps subconsciously) reciprocated, creating a positive cycle of momentum; they’re approaching conversations with positivity and are in turn met with positivity." Richard, dad of five
Parenting Through Separating and Divorce Course:
Helping Each Unique Family Thrive
This 6-week Parenting Through Divorce course is for you if:
- You want to understand how divorce affects children emotionally—and learn supportive, practical ways to help them feel secure and deeply cared for as your family transitions.
- You’d like to talk with your children about the changes in an age-appropriate, reassuring, and confident way.
- You want tools to help your child navigate big feelings—sadness, anger, worry, or confusion—and build resilience, confidence, and emotional well-being.
- You want to put your children first and stay connected, even when emotions (yours or theirs) feel overwhelming.
- You'd like to develop an effective, respectful co-parenting relationship, with communication strategies that reduce conflict and keep your children’s well-being at the centre.
- You’d like to do your part to create nurturing homes—with healthy routines, predictability, and boundaries that help your children feel safe, supported, and thrive.
Over six sessions with handouts and homework, you'll learn:
- How divorce affects children and steps you can take to mitigate the impact.
- Why parental conflict can have a long-term negative impact on your kids' health and well-being, and tools to communicate more effectively with your co-parent: be an active listener, use self-regulation and conflict-resolution tools, and set and respect boundaries.
- About children's needs at various ages and stages, how to meet these needs and why temperament is an important factor in how children respond to the changes and transitions inherent in divorce.
- Strategies to help each of your children feel heard and ways to connect with and support them emotionally.
- To feel more confident and empowered to help your family successfully navigate the emotional and practical challenges of separation and divorce while feeling closer to your child despite the upheaval and change.
- How to provide your child with the stability and predictability they need through a well-thought-out parenting plan and effective family communication.
Divorce is about transition and change. It's not easy, it is often very hard, but armed with insight, empathy, a willingness to show vulnerability and courage, we can do our very best to help our families thrive.
We tailor this course to you and your needs. We work with one parent or both parents separately but in parallel ( as long as there are no safeguarding issues or evidence of domestic abuse or neglect), covering the same material.
Why not book a free, no-obligation discovery call today?
Popular Workshops
Parenting Through Separation and Divorce - 60 minute talk
In this workshop for family law professionals I share practical strategies to help parents sensitively navigate the difficult transitions of separation or divorce. We explore the tools parents need to keep their children at the centre, focus on their needs and help their unique families thrive.
The workshop explores children’s needs, why understanding children’s developmental age and temperament is vital to helping children cope with change, the importance of finding and teaching coping strategies for the entire family and the vital role of respect.
We look at the importance of what we say, how we say it and how we listen. We can help parents learn the tools they need to become an Emotion Coach for their children - helping children learn to understand and manage their feelings and their behaviour while making sense of their parents divorce.
Finally, we explore the importance of connection with each parent and how deep consistent closeness supports children’s self-esteem, resilience, and happiness through the inevitable change that separation and divorce bring.
Get in touch to book this workshop for your organisation. (60 minutes with Q & A)
What participants say:
“I recently attended one of Heather’s workshops. As a mediator and family solicitor, I am always looking to develop my understanding as to how parents can support their children and better serve their needs. Heather provided invaluable insight into what children need from their parents together with parenting techniques to improve their connection to their children. The day after the course I put Heather’s training into practice in a mediation session and it was really impactful. I would recommend Heather as an expert in this field without a doubt. “ Laura - Head of Family Law
'Your talk was amazing, truly inspiring' Christopher - Head of Family Mediation
'Just a brilliant workshop' James - Family Mediator
'Your presentation on the FMA conference today was just bloody brilliant' Marianne - Family Mediator